These are two, Honesty and Grace are very old and timeless friends and ones that we all grapple with at times. For some they are total strangers, for some they are the best buddies they could ever wish for in their lives and for others a challenge or even sparing partners. For all of us they can be the oil in the wheels or in their absence a whole in the heart.
In this age of science, and the need for law and order, often it is the truth that is sort and of course you cannot have truth without honesty. Although, in the search for truth honesty is often over looked in the very pointed charge for truth or proof or the absolute.
While we often seek honesty from those around us and the world around us, it is sometimes even harder to find it within ourselves, often blinded to our own habits or unseeing of our own blind spots. When t
hese are revealed to us sometimes it can be quite painful or make us feel very vulnerable. However, if we check them carefully and accept them, these can be some of the greatest growth moments in our lives. There is of course one caveat; what is the truth to one person is only a part truth to another and we have to be honest about where the gap in the different perspective may be.
There is a beautiful old saying “Diplomacy is the better part of Valour”. Question is when is diplomacy just a sop for hiding the truth or not being honest with someone and when is it really serving a truly altruistic and noble purpose which can be called valour?
Personally this is where I feel grace is a far better guide. Grace walks with love, with light, with compassion and is a far more humble companion for honesty than any of the ones mentioned so far. The search for truth can make us have tunnel vision. Diplomacy can leave us open to basically never really facing things or understanding what is truly going on. Perhaps even being more blindsided than we might already be. Undertaking things for noble causes and valour leaves us open to simply being motivated to be proud, great and opens the doors to ego and pomp.
Honesty is always the best policy, but it can be at times painful and sharp. It’s delivery, it’s reception needs the companion of Grace for all, to just ease in the light and enable the discoveries, making what is revealed digestible, meaningful, and hold the bright truth that can only sparkle with humbleness rather than becoming a sharp instrument to prove a point and to allow time for all to reshape themselves around this new bright potential of having clarity following the revelation of honesty.
Why have these to companions in your life? They can require considerable work, they are not necessarily easy friends to have around. Because, without them, you get lost in a fog, the world you build for yourself and others becomes dis-honest and often brutal causing further injury to oneself and others. They are truly good friends to invite into your life and heart.